4 Cebuana beauties shared how they discovered to domesticate self-love to beat challenges and turn out to be the assured magnificence queens they’re right this moment. | CDN Picture/ Emmariel Ares
CEBU CITY, Philippines – The fourteenth day of February is well known worldwide as Valentine’s Day – the one big day we exert extra effort in expressing the love and affection we’ve in direction of associates, members of the family, and lover.
Whereas we’re preoccupied with looking for the most effective items and concepts on how you can make the day particular for others, we frequently overlook that our love for ourselves is equally vital because the love we give and obtain.
The unhappy fact is: self-love doesn’t at all times come naturally.
Oftentimes, we’re our personal harshest critics who view ourselves in a stricter manner than we do others. And any such mentality significantly impacts how we deal with different folks and the way we deal with relationships.
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Many relationships have ended on account of unresolved private conflicts that had been left within the shadows whereas we’re looking for out how you can love others the way in which they must be liked.
Come Valentine’s Day, we incessantly overlook that no romantic relationship would survive when you haven’t discovered to like your self first.
And this can be a course of that takes effort and time till you get up sooner or later with the correct amount of confidence.
This Valentine’s Day, 4 lovely girls, who’re set to overcome the Miss Universe Philippines stage, are sharing how they’ve discovered to domesticate self-love.
Personal your look
Don’t be ashamed of the woman you see within the mirror – this was the recommendation of Natasha Testa to different ladies seeking confidence to enter the world of pageantry.
Testa, a easy woman who grew up in a small city in Bicol, began competing in magnificence pageants at solely 11-years-old.
She was a darkish skinned petite woman with unruly hair, which grew to become bullets for individuals who bullied her when she got here to Cebu.
Testa, nonetheless, was extra bewildered than mad. She couldn’t perceive why the traits that made her who she is grew to become a motive for her to be the topic of ridicule.
Luckily, it didn’t take too lengthy for her to appreciate that her bullies would at all times discover a solution to make enjoyable of her it doesn’t matter what she regarded like. And so, she stopped caring about their opinions.
In an interview with CDN Digital, Testa shared how indifference helped her acquire extra confidence to hitch extra magnificence competitions.
She acknowledged that she discovered to like each bits of herself by gaining experiences and selecting to be herself with out enthusiastic about the opinions of others. that’s the essence of self-love
“I don’t care about what different folks take into consideration me. And that’s one thing that I’ve discovered that I carry up till this present day. I don’t care about them. So when you’re slightly woman who desires to enter this business, it’s important to love your self for who you’re,” she stated.
Testa, now 21-years-old, shall be representing town of Lapu-Lapu within the Miss Universe Philippines 2025 pageant after profitable the Miss Universe Philippines Cebu competitors in 2024.
Take the time to heal
Thelma Suzanne Dayao, 20, has been modeling since she was slightly woman.
At six-years-old, her grandmother launched her to the world of magnificence contests which helped her construct her confidence and self-love as she grew up right into a younger woman.
Her life, nonetheless, hit a droop when her grandmother handed away. The sudden incident triggered an nervousness dysfunction that had her taking remedy and drugs as a highschool scholar.
“I felt like I misplaced a giant a part of myself. That’s what I believe triggered my nervousness,” shared Dayao.
However with the assistance of her family and friends, who acted as her assist system, Dayao recovered and gained again the love for pageantry which she shared together with her late grandmother.
To be the most effective model of your self, Dayao stated that you will need to be sturdy it doesn’t matter what hurdles are thrown at you in life.
“It’s not at all times gonna be rainbows and sunshines. It’s a must to undergo storms to make you stronger. And don’t lose hope. As a result of the little woman that I used to be earlier than particularly the woman that skilled nervousness didn’t anticipate that she would come out of her shell and turn out to be this woman that I’m now. I didn’t suppose that I’d recuperate,” she acknowledged.
Self-love consists of permitting your self to be weak and search assist when wanted. In line with Dayao, you will need to recognize the blessings we get to take pleasure in in life on a regular basis.
“Life isn’t a really excellent journey. However it’s important to recognize each single day. As a result of not everyone seems to be blessed with good well being and a life to dwell. Each morning is a blessing,” she acknowledged.
Dayao shall be becoming a member of the Miss Universe Philippines 2025 contest as a consultant of her hometown of San Fernando in northern Cebu.
Be your genuine self
Chella Grace Falconer spent her childhood taking part in all types of outside video games together with her associates within the province. Since she was younger, Falconer has at all times been an lively and jolly woman decided to make a reputation for herself.
Now at 25-years-old, she earned the title of Miss Universe Philippines Cebu Tourism 2025 and shall be competing with different girls from completely different elements of the nation for the Miss Universe Philippines 2025 crown.
As a younger lady herself, Falconer shared her recommendation to youthful ladies to be their genuine selves to develop self-love.
For women who want to enter the world of pageantry sooner or later, she suggested them to be taught to face up for themselves and construct boundaries for their very own well-being.
Falconer takes delight in being often called a family-oriented individual. Tattoos of her siblings’ names close to her coronary heart present simply how a lot she values her household as her inspiration in life.
Her journey highlights how staying true to your self it doesn’t matter what others say means that you can be taught self-love that might defend you from others with ailing intentions.
“It sounds cliche however simply be your genuine self. Don’t be somebody who’s so keen within the pageant world that generally you overplease folks….I wish to set the usual of being true, the usual of getting self-respect. Being real and likewise having a assist system,” acknowledged Falconer.
Get to know your self higher
This yr’s Miss Universe Philippines Cebu 2025, however, emphasised the necessity for self reflection in fostering a loving reference to your self.
In an interview with CDN Digital, 26-year-old Gabriella Mai Carballo elaborated how a wholesome relationship with others can solely final if you’ll be able to assess first how one can be a super associate.
“Except for in search of that individual, are you that individual? Are you the type of person who another person would really prefer to dwell with and exist with each single day for the remainder of their lives. As a result of generally we’re so fast responsible the folks that we’re with however we don’t notice na I even have weaknesses. We even have shortcomings,” she acknowledged.
“If you happen to’ve already been introspective and requested your self what makes you a nasty associate and then you definitely really do one thing about it, the possibilities are greater that you can find somebody who has related values,” added Carballo.
Reaching this level, nonetheless, is just potential when you be taught to just accept all the things that makes you who you’re in and out.
Carballo’s recommendation to constructing vanity is self-love, to concentrate on your self first earlier than anything.
“I simply need younger ladies to know that there’s a lot extra to life than the glitz and the glamour. And that I need them to focus somewhat extra on self-development, discovering their calling, having an excellent relationship with God. And simply utilizing all of these elements of their background to make a model of themselves that may shine wherever they’re planted,” she acknowledged.
For Carballo, sustaining self-care and self-knowledge is the important thing in rising into the type of one that’s prepared to completely share her love with others.
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Within the coming months, she shall be becoming a member of the contestants from throughout the nation on the Miss Universe Philippine stage because the contender of Cebu Metropolis.
This Valentine’s Day is the right time to mirror on why you will need to depart house to construct and recognize the connection you could have with your self.
With the recommendation of all 4 magnificence queens who shall be proudly representing completely different elements of Cebu within the nationwide stage, take this time to domesticate self-love in your each day life.
Be assured, recognize your individual magnificence, and go present the world the most effective model of your self. Love your self as a lot as you like the individuals who make you are feeling excited to get up and face the world on a regular basis.